I was at wits end figuring out why I react in the way that I do. Humans are complex and have so many layers to themselves. I started peeling away my layers 4 years ago and this will be an ever- ending journey. I always wanted to be more resilient in life’s encounters whether its dealing with a tower moment, friends, family, unexpected circumstances, money, triggers, and so much more to the human experience. I desire to be constant in the mist of chaos.
I am a highly sensitive soul with empathic gifts. This life is intense, in general, for me. This topic popped into my spirit to share with those and to be reference for whenever I need a pick me up.
Here is a shortcut to when you are feeling victimy, loss of power, out of control, and need a bucket of ice-cold water to be poured on you to get you out of your sense:
- Tell A Better Story — whatever story that you are telling yourself is no longer serving you and draining you. Tell a story that highlights you are the hero and not a villain. What are you capable of, what worked out for you, how you succeeded when the odds were against you, what will be next goal because you made it out stronger than before?
- Confident Boosters- What have you done this past week, today, yesterday, a month ago that shows that you are capable of doing hard shit? Ask yourself this question and write it out on a piece of paper. Maybe, you just need to see it to believe it. Evidence is needed for the subconscious/ conscious mind.
- Take responsibility for your part of the situation- Take accountability for part that you played(if suitable). Its call taking your power back. Improve immediately from the situation with a positive self- talk based on your confident booster list. Acknowledge and awareness is key.
- Know that you are a good human and mistakes are a part of this human experience- You live and you learn. Shit will hit the fan and how you respond is reflection of your internal makeup. How can you respond to yourself without bringing yourself down?
- Speak up for yourself- Whenever pressured or someone tarnishes your character, speak up for you. Advocate for yourself, stand up for yourself. Use the power of your voice to check others and affirm yourself in a positive light. Be in your corner at all times. Don’t side or switch up on yourself. Bet on you to make it through and through, thick or thin. Be honest with yourself when you speak, feel it deep within your tummy and speak.
- Take a Cold Bath — get out of the thinking mind and all the chatter that is taking you out of your element/ stability.
- Affirmations that you truly believe in- Affirmations and get grounded in the present. Remind yourself who you are and create from that moment.
